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Question:
Assalamu Alaikum, I hope you are well. I want to seek advice from you about an important matter for myself. I am an 18-year-old Muslim girl. Some time ago, I met an 18-year-old Muslim boy in an online math study group, because we are studying the same subjects. Currently we live in different countries. Initially, we only talked for academic help and general school planning, because I asked many people for help for my studies. Over time, we developed feelings for each other and we honestly expressed this to each other. However, we are both trying our best to avoid anything forbidden. We have never met in person, and our conversations remain respectful and mostly limited to school and general daily topics. Now we are worried and confused. We want to act correctly in Islam and avoid any sin. Our question is: Is it completely haram for us to continue communicating like this, even if the conversation is respectful and appropriate? Or should we completely stop talking? We sincerely want to do the right thing, but we are not sure what that is and we do not know who else to ask. Jazak Allahu Khairan for your time and guidance.
Answer:
Bismillahi Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala, Alladhi ‘Allama Al-Insana Ma’alima Ad-Din, Wa An’ama ‘Alayhi Bi Haqa’iq Ash-Shari’ati Wat-Tamkin
Your question is very important, and your attempt to avoid the forbidden is commendable. May Allah Almighty reward you for this good intention.
Ruling on Talking to a Non-Mahram
In Shari’ah, it is prohibited for any non-mahram man and woman to talk in seclusion or have relations, even if it is online. Unless marriage takes place, it is not permissible for both of you to have an emotional connection or to speak with expressions of love.
Dangers of Online Relationships
Although your conversation is currently respectful, after emotions are involved, it becomes very difficult to control. Shaytan gradually weakens the boundaries. Therefore, it is better that you both completely stop communicating until there is a Shari’ah way for marriage.
The Case of Marriage
If you both want to marry each other, the Shari’ah way is that you inform your parents or guardian and marry with their permission. After that, you can talk to each other. But until then, avoid any kind of conversation.
Summary
It is not permissible for you to continue talking to this boy, even if it is academic or respectful. After emotions are involved, it will be considered forbidden. Therefore, immediately stop communication, and if you intend to marry, proceed in a Shari’ah way.
References
- Holy Quran: Wala Taqrabu Az-Zina, Innahu Kana Fahishatan Wa Sa’a Sabila (Bani Isra’il: 32)
- Hadith: La Yakhluwanna Rajulun Bi Imra’atin Illa Kana Thalithahuma Ash-Shaytan (Tirmidhi)
Wallahu Bissawabi A’lam, Wa ‘Ilmuhu Asawabu Wa Atammu
